🇫🇷 Lesson 3: Greetings & Essential Phrases

🎯 What You'll Learn

Learn how to greet people, introduce yourself, and use essential polite expressions in French. You'll also understand the crucial tu vs vous distinction and how greetings differ between France and Canada.

Estimated Time: 45–55 minutes

đź‘‹ Basic Greetings

FrenchPronunciationMeaningWhen to Use
Bonjourbon-ZHOORHello / Good dayAny time before evening; the default greeting
Bonsoirbon-SWAHRGood eveningFrom late afternoon/evening onward
Salutsa-LÜHi / Hey / ByeCasual — friends, family, people you "tu"
Coucoukoo-KOOHey there!Very casual/cute — close friends, kids
Au revoiroh ruh-VWAHRGoodbyeStandard goodbye, any situation
Bonne journéebun zhoor-NAYHave a good dayWhen parting during the day
Bonne soiréebun swah-RAYHave a good eveningWhen parting in the evening
Bonne nuitbun NWEEGood nightOnly when going to bed
Ă€ bientĂ´tah bee-en-TOHSee you soonWhen you'll see each other again
À demainah duh-MANSee you tomorrowSpecific — when meeting the next day

⚠️ "Bonjour" Is Required!

In French culture, always say bonjour when entering a shop, approaching a stranger, or starting any interaction. Skipping this and going straight to your question is considered rude — even at a busy café or a market stall. It's the social lubricant of French life.

🇫🇷 France

Bonjour is used throughout the day until about 6 PM, then switch to bonsoir. In shops, you might hear a cheery "Bonjour!" from the staff as you enter. Coucou is common in text messages and among close friends.

🇨🇦 Canada

Bonjour works all day too, but in Montréal you'll often hear "Bonjour-Hi!" as a bilingual greeting in shops (letting you choose your language). Allô is used as a casual "hi" in person (not just on the phone like in France).

🤝 Tu vs Vous

This is one of the most important concepts in French. Both words mean "you," but they signal very different social relationships:

Tu (informal)Vous (formal / plural)
Use withFriends, family, children, peers, animalsStrangers, elders, bosses, in professional settings
Verb conjugationTu parles (you speak)Vous parlez (you speak)
Possessiveton / ta / tes (your)votre / vos (your)
Social signalFamiliarity, closeness, equalityRespect, distance, formality

âś… When in Doubt: Use Vous

If you're unsure, always default to vous. It's never offensive to be too formal — but using tu too soon can feel presumptuous. The other person may say "On peut se tutoyer" (We can use tu with each other) to signal it's okay to switch.

🤝 Introductions (Se Présenter)

Here's a standard self-introduction you can customize:

Bonjour ! (Hello!)

Je m'appelle [name]. (My name is [name].)

Je suis américain(e). (I am American.)

J'habite Ă  Las Vegas. (I live in Las Vegas.)

Enchanté(e). (Nice to meet you.)

Key Introduction Vocabulary

FrenchPronunciationMeaning
Je m'appelle...zhuh mah-PELMy name is...
Comment vous appelez-vous ?koh-MAHN voo-zah-play-VOOWhat is your name? (formal)
Tu t'appelles comment ?tĂĽ tah-PEL koh-MAHNWhat's your name? (informal)
Enchanté(e)ahn-shahn-TAYNice to meet you (add -e if you're female)
Je suis de...zhuh swee duhI'm from...
J'habite Ă ...zhah-BEET ahI live in...
Je parle un peu françaiszhuh parl uhn puh frahn-SAYI speak a little French
Je suis en train d'apprendrezhuh swee ahn tran dah-PRAHNDRI'm learning (right now)

🙏 Essential Polite Expressions

FrenchPronunciationMeaning
S'il vous plaîtseel voo PLAYPlease (formal)
S'il te plaîtseel tuh PLAYPlease (informal)
Mercimair-SEEThank you
Merci beaucoupmair-SEE boh-KOOThank you very much
De rienduh ree-ENYou're welcome (casual)
Je vous en priezhuh voo-zahn PREEYou're welcome (formal)
Excusez-moiex-kü-zay MWAHExcuse me (formal — getting attention or apologizing)
Pardonpar-DOHNPardon / Sorry (bumping into someone)
Je suis désolé(e)zhuh swee day-zo-LAYI'm sorry (genuine apology)
OuiweeYes
NonnohnNo
D'accorddah-KOROkay / Agreed
Bien sûrbee-en SÜHROf course
Pas de problèmepah duh pro-BLEMNo problem

🇫🇷 France

De rien is the most common casual "you're welcome." You'll also hear "Il n'y a pas de quoi" (There's nothing to thank me for) or simply "Pas de quoi." A very polite option: "Je vous en prie."

🇨🇦 Canada

Québécois often say "Bienvenue" for "you're welcome" — which is a false friend for France French speakers, who only use bienvenue to mean "welcome" (as in welcoming someone). In Québec, it literally functions like English "you're welcome."

âť“ Useful Questions

FrenchPronunciationMeaning
Comment allez-vous ?koh-MAHN tah-lay VOOHow are you? (formal)
Comment ça va ? / Ça va ?koh-MAHN sa VAH / sa VAHHow's it going? (casual)
Ça va bien, mercisa va BYEN, mair-SEEI'm doing well, thanks
Et vous ? / Et toi ?ay VOO / ay TWAHAnd you? (formal / casual)
Parlez-vous anglais ?par-lay VOO ahn-GLAYDo you speak English? (formal)
Je ne comprends paszhuh nuh kohn-PRAHN pahI don't understand
Pouvez-vous répéter ?poo-vay VOO ray-pay-TAYCan you repeat? (formal)
Plus lentement, s'il vous plaîtplü lahnt-MAHN seel voo PLAYMore slowly, please
Comment dit-on... en français ?koh-MAHN dee-TOHN ... ahn frahn-SAYHow do you say ... in French?
Qu'est-ce que c'est ?kess kuh SAYWhat is it / this?
OĂą est... ?oo AYWhere is...?

💡 "Ça va" — The Swiss Army Knife

Ça va ? is both a question and an answer. Someone asks "Ça va ?" — you reply "Ça va !" and the exchange is complete. You can add detail: "Ça va bien" (going well), "Ça va pas mal" (not bad), "Bof, ça va" (meh, it's okay), or "Ça ne va pas" (it's not going well).

📞 Phone & Messaging Greetings

Situation🇫🇷 France🇨🇦 Canada
Answering the phoneAllĂ´ ?AllĂ´ ? / Oui allĂ´ ?
Casual "hi" in personSalut, CoucouAllĂ´, Salut
Text message greetingCoucou ! / Salut ! / Hello !AllĂ´ ! / Salut ! / Hey !
Ending a callAllez, à bientôt / BisousBon, c'est ça / Bye !

💋 La Bise — The French Cheek Kiss

In France, greeting someone with light cheek kisses (la bise) is standard among friends, family, and often new acquaintances. The number varies by region — usually 2 (Paris), but can be 1, 3, or even 4 in some areas!

🇫🇷 France

La bise is very common — between women, between women and men, and even between men in some regions or families. It's a social ritual, not romantic. Start on the right cheek (usually). If in doubt, let the other person lead.

🇨🇦 Canada

La bise exists in Québec but is less automatic than in France. Handshakes are more common in professional settings. Among friends and family, hugs are often the norm (influenced by English-Canadian and American culture). Two kisses is standard when la bise is used.

🏋️ Practice Exercises

🏋️ Exercise: Match the Situation

What would you say in each situation?

  1. You enter a bakery at 10 AM → Bonjour !
  2. You bump into someone on the street → Pardon !
  3. A friend asks "Ça va ?" → Ça va bien, merci ! Et toi ?
  4. You want to know how to say "dog" in French → Comment dit-on "dog" en français ?
  5. You're leaving a dinner party at 10 PM → Bonne soirée ! Au revoir !
  6. You meet someone for the first time → Enchanté(e) !

📝 Quiz: Test Your Knowledge

1. What is the most important thing to say when entering a French shop?

2. When unsure whether to use tu or vous, you should:

3. In Québec, what does "Bienvenue" often mean in response to "Merci"?

4. How do you say "I don't understand" in French?

📚 Key Takeaways

📌 Lesson Summary

✦ Always greet with Bonjour — it's the essential social rule in French culture.

✦ Tu = informal/familiar, Vous = formal/respectful/plural. When in doubt, use vous.

✦ Ça va ? is the universal casual greeting and can be both question and answer.

✦ In Québec, "Bienvenue" means "you're welcome" — a key false friend.

✦ La bise (cheek kiss greeting) is standard in France; less automatic in Canada.

✦ Master these polite essentials: merci, s'il vous plaît, excusez-moi, pardon, de rien.